The Constant Contest
One major form of abuse is an inability to hear the word NO.
That's a key part of how abusers control others - by refusing to hear them, by refusing to accept the boundaries they set, by wearing them out.
To such a person, everything - everything - every single human interaction, 24/7, world without end - is a contest. They absolutely have to win every such contest.
Which means the other person involved must be defeated.
Every time.
About everything.
This is not exactly a solid foundation to build on.
That's a key part of how abusers control others - by refusing to hear them, by refusing to accept the boundaries they set, by wearing them out.
To such a person, everything - everything - every single human interaction, 24/7, world without end - is a contest. They absolutely have to win every such contest.
Which means the other person involved must be defeated.
Every time.
About everything.
This is not exactly a solid foundation to build on.
Labels: abuse, boundaries, unhealthy competition
posted by Stormchild at 22.5.07
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